I remember the first time I heard about a yoga student dying. I was just a few years into my practice and the teacher announced the death of a regular student from cancer. She was only 40-something. And, one of a hundred faces I saw in class every day. I never knew her name or noticed when she stopped coming.
But, yogis aren’t supposed to die.
Since then, I’ve had to mourn two of my teachers, Larry Schultz and Sri K Pattabhi Jois. Yoga teachers don’t live to be 108 years old.
Yogis are people. We live. We practice. If were lucky, we grow old and then die.
But, as a teacher, what if a student dies?
I have several septuagenarians and octogenarians in my regular classes. They are amazing and an inspiration to me, and everyone who meets them. But, there have been some close calls. One bad fall, a complication in surgery, an issue with a chronic health condition can be fatal.
When a student isn’t in class for a while, I wonder. I’m afraid that I’ll never see them again.
Coping with loss can affect all of us. How can a teacher hold a space while grieving?
- Ask the studio if there is a protocol for handling the death of a regular student
- Ask the family or friends if they’d like a special class to remember the life of that student
- Acknowledge your own sadness, to yourself and others
- Remember, “it’s not about you”. It’s the natural cycle of life
- Talk to your fellow teachers. Your community of co-workers can support you